That didn’t excuse Derek’s behavior.
But it helped me understand why simply restoring the old system would solve nothing.
Meanwhile, Patricia had to face her own financial reality.
Derek stopped transferring his entire salary to her.
Instead, he arranged to contribute a clearly defined monthly amount toward her essential needs while she worked with a financial counselor.
He didn’t pay off every debt immediately.
He didn’t give her unrestricted access to his accounts.
And he no longer expected me to cover her discretionary purchases.
Patricia was furious.
For several weeks, she accused both of us of abandoning her.
She called relatives.
Complained about my selfishness.
Suggested that I’d changed Derek.
Eventually, though, the financial counselor helped her create a budget.
She returned the diamond necklace deposit where permitted under the jeweler’s terms and recovered part of the money.
She canceled several luxury subscriptions.
She began paying down her debts systematically.