I thought carefully before answering.
“Start by separating your financial responsibilities from hers.”
He nodded slowly.
“Then?”
“Ask her to disclose her debts honestly if she wants your help. Decide what support you can afford after meeting your own obligations.”
He looked surprised.
“You’re not going to tell me to stop helping her?”
“No.”
I paused.
“She’s your mother. You’re allowed to help her.”
His expression softened.
“But helping someone shouldn’t mean surrendering your judgment.”
He sat quietly.
Then looked down at his wedding ring.
For the first time, I wondered whether he might actually be listening.
The next evening, Derek asked Patricia to join us in the living room.
I was surprised when he invited me to sit beside him.
For seven years, important discussions involving his mother had usually happened without me.
Now he wanted both of us present.
Patricia arrived carrying a glass of sparkling water.
She smiled.